While there isn’t a single definitive question that can definitively identify a narcissist, there are some questions or observations that can help provide insights into narcissistic tendencies or behaviors. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not all individuals who display narcissistic traits will meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

Here’s a question that may offer some insight…

“Can you tell me about a time when you had to admit you were wrong or take responsibility for a mistake or failure?”

The way a person responds to this question can provide some clues about their level of narcissism. Narcissists typically have difficulty acknowledging their mistakes or taking responsibility for their actions. They may respond with defensiveness, denial, blame-shifting, or by downplaying their role in any negative situation.

A single question or response is not sufficient to diagnose narcissism or assess its severity accurately. Identifying narcissistic traits often involves observing a pattern of behavior over time, including traits such as a lack of empathy, an excessive need for admiration, a sense of entitlement, and manipulative tendencies.

If you suspect that someone you know may have narcissistic tendencies that are causing issues in your relationship or life, it can be helpful to seek guidance from a mental health professional who can provide a more comprehensive assessment and support.