Narcissistic manipulation refers to the manipulative behaviors and tactics employed by individuals with narcissistic personality traits or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) to control, exploit, or deceive others for their own benefit. Narcissistic individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a deep need for admiration and attention. They often engage in manipulative behaviors to maintain their self-esteem and assert dominance over others.

Some common forms of narcissistic manipulation include…

1. Gaslighting – Narcissists may distort facts, deny reality, or invalidate others’ feelings and perceptions to make their targets doubt their own sanity or reality. Gaslighting can lead the victim to question their judgment and sense of self.
2. Emotional Manipulation – Narcissists can use emotional manipulation techniques to control others’ emotions and actions. This may involve guilt-tripping, playing the victim, or using charm and charisma to manipulate emotions.
3. Manipulative Charm – Narcissists often display charm, flattery, and charisma to gain trust and admiration from others. They may use this charm to exploit people emotionally or financially.
4. Triangulation – Narcissists may create rivalries or conflicts between individuals or groups to maintain control and receive attention. They use triangulation to manipulate and divide people.
5. Love-Bombing and Devaluation – In relationships, narcissists may initially “love-bomb” their partners with excessive attention and affection, only to later devalue and criticize them. This emotional rollercoaster keeps the victim off balance and dependent on the narcissist’s approval.
6. Hoovering – After discarding or abandoning someone, narcissists may use hoovering to draw them back into the relationship. They may employ tactics such as apologies, promises of change, or even threats to regain control.
7. Projection – Narcissists often project their own negative traits and behaviors onto others, deflecting blame and responsibility for their actions.
8. Silent Treatment – Narcissists may use the silent treatment as a form of punishment or control, ignoring or withdrawing from others to gain compliance or emotional reactions.
9. Scapegoating – In families or groups, narcissists may target one individual as a scapegoat and blame them for problems or conflicts. This diverts attention from the narcissist’s own behavior.
10. Financial Manipulation – Some narcissists exploit others financially, either through deceit, coercion, or by taking advantage of their generosity.

Recognize that dealing with narcissistic manipulation can be emotionally distressing and harmful. If you believe you are dealing with a narcissistic individual who is manipulating you or causing you harm, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist, counselor, or support group. Setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and seeking professional guidance can be essential in coping with and disengaging from narcissistic manipulation.