Manipulation often follows a sequence of stages, although the exact number and characteristics of these stages can vary depending on the context and the tactics used.

Here are four common stages of manipulation…

1. Assessment and Targeting – In this initial stage, the manipulator assesses their potential target(s) and identifies vulnerabilities, needs, or weaknesses that can be exploited. They gather information about the target’s personality, emotions, desires, and circumstances.
2. Grooming and Building Trust – Manipulators often work to establish trust and rapport with their target(s). They may use charm, flattery, and manipulative charm to gain the target’s confidence. This stage involves creating a favorable impression and appearing as a friend, mentor, or trustworthy figure.
3. Manipulation and Control – During this stage, the manipulator begins to exert control and influence over the target. They may use various tactics such as gaslighting, emotional manipulation, guilt-tripping, or playing on the target’s emotions and insecurities. The manipulator’s goal is to steer the target’s thoughts, feelings, and actions in a direction that benefits the manipulator.
4. Maintenance and Concealment – In the final stage, the manipulator continues to exert control and maintain their influence over the target. They may employ ongoing tactics to reinforce their dominance, prevent the target from breaking free, and keep the manipulation hidden. This stage often involves maintaining a facade or concealing the manipulative behaviors.

Manipulation can occur in various settings and relationships, including personal relationships, workplaces, and social interactions. While these stages provide a general framework, manipulation tactics can vary widely, and not all manipulators follow this exact sequence. Awareness of manipulation and setting boundaries are crucial in preventing and addressing manipulative behavior. If you suspect that you are being manipulated or if you are concerned about manipulative behavior in your relationships, seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals can be beneficial.