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How To Forgive Yourself How can you ask me to forgive fill-in-the-blank? Easy, your un-forgiveness is your prison! When we focus on the past we are unable to have clarity on the future. In the absence of clear vision we always return to our past. Why? Because we go back to what worked even if it […]
Read articleHow To Be Self Aware How to become self aware. To be self aware is to fully comprehend our thoughts, feelings and actions. And, perhaps more importantly, how our thoughts, feelings and actions affect self and others. It is the ability to look at our life as others see us. Self awareness becomes the ability […]
Read articleHow To Not Be Insecure All of us have insecurity. Learn the lesson but don’t dwell on it. All sorts of things lead to insecurity, however, in my experience many insecurities are rooted in dramatic painful or emotional events. They may also a result of one’s family of origin. Those who deny the lessons of […]
Read articleHow To Plan Your Life Do you have a bucket list? Is the idea of a bucket list one that energizes you? Or, were you made to feel guilty for even considering the idea of a bucket list? Many people live such a day-to-day existence that they can’t imagine the idea of having a bucket […]
Read articleWhat Is A Toxic Relationship? Toxic relationships are just that. Toxic! They are often poisonous or filled with negative emotion. We all know people who argue for argument sake—pushy when a simple request is all that is needed. They are not approachable, raise every problem to the level of crisis and exaggerate shortcomings. This isn’t […]
Read articleHow To Develop Self Awareness How do we discover our true self? We start with self awareness. This begins by knowing who we are, what we want, understanding our worldview and living consistently with reality. It is easy to get sidetracked with the belief that we should become someone based on an observation of another. […]
Read articleWhat Do I Want Out Of Life? It is a most peculiar thing to have dreams buried deep inside a person. Why is it such a struggle for some to bring their dreams to life? We stall because of the security of a job or we listen to the wrong people or we lose faith […]
Read articleWhat Is The Purpose Of Life? Your Life? Yes, I think purpose is the right question. Past the need for food and shelter, the two most important needs for all of us is the desire for community and the pursuit of meaning. W. Edwards Deming helped me realize that all of humanity has a need […]
Read articleWho Am I? Man has been asking the personal identity question since the dawn of time. And the older one gets the more the question gets asked. My definition is the sum total of my thoughts, emotions and actions. These make up my soul or my being. So our journey to answering the “Who am […]
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